Child’s Behavior
Every behavior has a positive intention for the people who show a particular behavior. Therefore, people still use a certain set of behaviors (competencies) that set of behaviors (competencies), is still working for them. Behaviors are a skill, learned and practiced, and maintain and enhance a person who works for us.
We, as adults will not do a certain behavior, if you do not get what they were originally after. Therefore, it is the same for children. As reported by the experts who said “The definition of insanity is to continue doing the same thing but expecting different results, this situation obviously caused disappointment and frustration continued. Fortunately for us who have challenging behaviors of our children, this fact gives us a solution. We have to change something so that the behavior does not meet the needs of children or desire.
There are several principles relating to the impact on the behavior of others, be the first: You cannot make someone else but you do nothing. Therefore it is necessary to control or manage themselves in order to influence the behavior of others.
If you can only manage and control ourselves, it is logical that in order to influence the “inappropriate” behavior of others (boy or girl we, the importance of others) we must make changes in our approach (what we do). This is not as difficult as it sounds because most of us already have the skills. Women constantly influencing human behavior by putting on some sexy lingerie, cooking your favorite foods, while men often affects women doing the little things that bother before calling? And usually in order to soften them to ask what we want. So we have the first piece of the puzzle to change one’s behavior. Change our behavior.
Once again, we already have the necessary skills, as evidenced by ignoring the mother of the children who behave inappropriately, or even the “old days” when a child says “I’m bored” I’ll distract them give them a small problem, or say ” go out and find something to do “I know that the benefits of changing focus. This method is very good distractions to keep a child in the midst of raging good practice.
The following example provides some tips on how to direct these strategies can affect a child’s behavior. First we must plan our reactions reaction alternative trained and trained well (yes, because the reaction tends to react rather than think about the things in place – that we must train ourselves) that we use and in practice the next time the situation frustrating circumstances.
Take the example that your child does not continue to put dirty clothes in the laundry basket. Now the mother, even through the constant frustration asked to put clothes in the basket, will continue to take after him. So really it was extended to get what you want, clean clothes, wearing makeup and your wardrobe.
A change in the form of capital strategy will change what he did. That is to stop collecting after her. This will result in a lack of clean clothes for the children. If you have to collect (because he wanted to keep a clean house) put the dirty clothes on the child’s bed, washing clothes really make the laundry basket.
It is important that there is some learning on behalf of the child in all of this. Children need to develop appreciation of why it is important to their mothers. So after enduring their complaints with no clean clothes, or washing is not done, can be explained by the calm and controlled voice “rule is placed in the laundry hamper, not the clothes in the laundry basket is not necessary and can also give advice on how you feel appreciated when someone account and must pick up after him to keep the house clean and tidy for visitors and friends.
